Ah, the joys of being a parent to a teenager. While some days may seem impossible with her, there will be days that you absolutely treasure. Days that she makes you feel proud to be her parent, and days that she will need you to wash all her pains away.
Peer pressure and having to cope with many teenage stressful moments can lead to the child experiencing some form of lacking self esteem. This is completely normal, try to be in their shoes and recall what life was like for you at that age. Kids in school can be very harsh, and their bodies are going through so many large changes that they simply cannot keep up with all of it. During these times, you will need to look into helping your teenage daughter feel beautiful. It may seem a bit on the challenging side, but you can succeed at this and she will adore you for it.
First, you must have the discussion with your daughter about any things she does not lie about herself. This can be an emotional chat with her, she may express some deep feelings and she may also cry. Be a voice that is there for her and advise her firstly that these times happen to all young women. Next, go into those traits or physical features that may bother her. Provide encouraging thoughts for her and let her know that her body and mind are still in a huge changing process. That she will continue to evolve into someone that she will love!
If your daughter has certain issues that can be repaired, then do the right thing and help her as she needs you now more than ever. Losing weight for instance and being more fit, is something that she can take on herself, and maybe even with a little bit of your help! Getting a new hairstyle or obtaining new clothing can make all the difference in a teen's life. These are minimal things to you, but remember what life is like for a young girl and how fantastic it could be if they just saw what you saw in them. Encourage your daughter to love herself, give her examples of traits she carries that are amazing. Tell her that even though you are willing to help guide her in changing a few things about herself in order to help raise her esteem, that she will begin to focus more on other importance in life such as the type of human being she is rather than these superficial instances. Be cautious when you begin to help your daughter as those teen years can be bumpy ride.
Getting your nails done together once a month (mom's treat) and then going to a bookstore for coffee and good book browsing is a great way to bond with my daughter, I have found.
ReplyDeleteThat is a great idea Wendy. When I was reading this article I was thinking to myself how much I wish my mother would've just once tried to take me out to pamper me. It would've meant the world to me.
ReplyDeleteAbsolutely a wonderful idea! My mom and I did this together when I was a teenager, and boy I loved it! It allowed us to stay close during those moody adolescent years and made a huge impact on my self-esteem.
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